"FALL BACK GIRL"

 

  • You dated someone for two months before breaking up and then you chase him for the next six months or more;
  • After two dates you're already telling him you love him and began mentally planning the wedding;
  • None of your friends want to be around you because all you talk about is your current love (which seems to change regularly);
  •  You're there for him 24/7 regardless of how little interest he shows;
  • You wait for an invitation all week and find yourself alone on weekends because he hasn't made plans with you;
  • You initiate contact and he responds when he wants OR with vague messages;
  •  When he asks what you would like to do you tell him "whatever you would like" rather than express any desire whatsoever;
  •  You make excuses for his poor treatment of you;
  • You tell others (and believe) that he loves you too much and that's why he doesn't contact you;
  • You explain his lack of commitment is because he is afraid of being hurt rather than admit it is because "he isn't that into you";
  • You believe he is the "love of your life" when he is done little or nothing to show love to you;
  • If you break up he comes back and you welcome him home as his "fall back" girl until he leaves again;
  • You fear telling him no because you're afraid he will leave and never come back;You treat him like a king while your self-confidence has been destroyed.

 

 

"GIRL OF HIS DREAMS"

 

  • You have no problem expressing yourself and your desires;
  • You know you're a catch and you deserve to be treated with love, kindness and respect;
  • You would never allow yourself to be waiting around to see if someone is going to call because you have a life to live and you live it to THE fullest;
  • If someone says "I need time apart" you view it as an opportunity to meet new people;
  • You deserve love and commitment and you don't settle for less;
  • If your mate says he wants a relationship break you let him go knowing that he will be back;
  • You don't need to pressure a man because they WANT to be with you and admire your strength, self-esteem and determination;
  • Men love to be around you because you are not clingy and they don't feel smothered;
  • You believe in a "win/win" way to resolve issues and don't rehash the same argument over and over again;
  • You don't lose your confidence because he seems noncommittal and don't place all your worth on the opinion of one man (or woman);
  • You are too busy living your wonderful life to creep on someone's social media;
  • It takes a while to win your heart because you view yourself with high regard and as a "prize" and don't give away your affection to just anyone;
  • You desire to be in a relationship that's healthy and would not settle for one that isn't;
  • You let no man control you BUT you are willing to be an equal partner;
  • Not just anyone can pass your relationship criteria but when they do they appreciate your loyalty, love and devotion
  • Only you can decide which one you are AND what you would choose to be!   I write relationship books for women who desire to be empowered and free from issues that have plagued them in the past.