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Booty Call or Love?

Booty Call or Love?

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You know you have the ability to choose which one you desire in your life.  Too many women believe that a booty call is the first step to getting the guy emotionally involved but they have nothing to do with one another.  Some of the best "pure sex" does not lead to love and some of the "least inventive" sex can lead to deep emotional attachment.  It's all a matter of the heart.

I answer questions daily from readers who want to know if they should continue having sex with their ex while trying to get a commitment out of him.  If a guy has a willing sex partner who requires nothing more from him than an occasional "date" or "hookup" isn't it logical that he will take you up on the offer as frequently as he desires?  If that is not what you are seeking and desiring then you will need to decide if you want to continue being his friend with benefits.  I know women enjoy the benefits as much as the men but if you're using sex as a way to get a commitment you may re-think that decision.

I didn't see my now fiancé' for an entire year after our 4 year relationship cratered.  Why did we break up?  Well, I think his freedom was too much of a priority and I'm sure he will admit it freely.  I wasn't willing to be tossed aside only to get together occasionally for a sexual relationship.  Not for me, sorry.  So we didn't talk for an entire year!  No texts, no emails, no contact.  I did, however, use my "secret technique" on him during that time to ensure that he didn't forget about me.  Nothing wrong with some specific, directed thoughts that I knew he would receive.  He proposed 3 weeks after we saw each other again.

My point?  Don't settle for less than you deserve.  If you break up and he states clearly that he wants to continue with the "booty call" but nothing else see it for what it is and break it off if you want more.  There is nothing worse for your self-esteem than constant rejection and  hoping for commitment.  It is easier and healthier for you to be upfront with him and state what it is you need and desire.  Hear what he has to say to you about your needs and don't filter it and only hear what you want to hear.  For instance:  if he says "I don't want a relationship" don't make excuses for him and turn that into "he loves me too much and is afraid".  No!  Take it  as "I don't want a relationship....(maybe with you)".  Yes, it hurts!  But it's better to move on and find someone that does want a relationship with you.

I'm sure most women can relate to the "booty call" boyfriend and it leaves a very empty, vacant, low self-esteem feeling that can easily be recounted years later.  However, we've all experienced the empowerment of not accepting less than we desire in our life, too.  Is there anything better than taking back the control and moving on if that's what is necessary?  Men, or people in general, will only respect you as much as you respect and honor yourself.  Playing games isn't going to get you a strong, lasting relationship.  Be honest, sincere and decide your course of action with your eyes wide open.  "Booty Call" or significant other...you get to make that decision.

 

Should You Let Go of Your Ex?

Should You Let Go of Your Ex?

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I wish I could count the number of times I have been asked about when to let go of your "ex"....or, whether you should let go or not.  I write books on attracting your "ex" or any man into your life and they absolutely, totally work.  However, if you have a man who shows no interest in you, you have to track down and chase, he only wants a "booty call" or keeps you hanging on with empty promises is that a question you should be asking?  Is attracting back your "ex" who appears to care less really worth your time and energy?  I can only answer for myself but that would be a HELL NO.

I tell my readers that if you have to spend all of your time, energy and effort on getting a guy back who acts like he could take you or leave you and not care either way then dump him!  Even though you can put thoughts and feelings into his head with my "secret technique" it will be a full-time job for you and eventually you will just have to throw up your hands and give up.  There are too many awesome men out there to waste time pining and whining over the loss of one man.  I don't care how "wonderful, fabulous, irreplaceable" he is in your head.  If he was such a great guy he wouldn't be dismissing you and treating you exactly the way YOU DO NOT DESERVE to be treated would he?

Women say about their ex "I can't live without him" or "he is the love of my life" but if he treats you poorly there isn't much there to love is there?  Men tend to remember the bad things in a past relationship and women remember only the good.  Women don't remember how poorly or dismissive they were treated.  Sometimes it is a wake-up call when you realize that it has been months since your ex had any connection to you or showed you the kindness and love you yearn for.   Sometimes you have to just let go and not have ANY expectation of him returning for him to feel it, miss the connection and come back.  It doesn't always work but I guarantee you that it works more often than sitting around looking at your phone and waiting for a non-existent phone call.  It certainly works better than stalking him, creeping on his FB or drunk dialing him only to be rebuffed again.  You want him?  Let him go and let him feel the loss.

Independence and strength in a woman is attractive and desirable to men.  Clingy, desperate, can't move forward, needy, jealous, low self-esteem women are a turn-off and men feel it, sense it, see it and RUN FROM IT.  You want to know when to let go of a man?  The minute he treats you the way you do not deserve to be treated.  No, I'm not talking about a little spat.  I am talking about on-going, continuous behavior from him that depletes your energy, trashes your self-esteem and makes you totally at his beck and call.  Cut the cord and he will feel it.  Otherwise you may become a back-up if nothing better shows up in his life and frankly who is the hell would want to be that?

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Claim Your Man With Your Mind

Claim Your Man With Your Mind

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If you have the power to claim your man without shackling him to you is there a reason why you wouldn't take advantage of it?  Your mind is the key to making a claim on your mate without saying a word to him.  Who needs to be jealous, insecure or let the man control the relationship?  No!  Let the power of your intention stake a claim on your mate that will last until you release him.

How?  Well, if you have read my books "Pussy Whip" or "Make Him Burn" you will know that your intentions and belief control EVERYTHING in your life.  It creates your reality.  I taught you specific methods to contact and control your mate.  I don't care whether he is sitting across the room in a chair or halfway around the world you can control his thoughts and actions.  So if you have the power to do that why wouldn't you be able to put a claim him?  The fact is that YOU DO!

Use the technique to contact him and when you do tell him "you are mine...no one will take you from me....you will be mine until I release you".  When you think of him during the day visualize him as clearly as possible.  Really hone in on him like a laser beam!  Tell him the same thing "you are mine...you belong to me and only me."  See him and even place him mentally in a protective bubble so he will be off-limits and invisible to others.  It may sound bizarre to some women but to those who have read my books, other books on LOA, etc. you will understand how easy it is to do.

Place your claim on anything you want!  If you want something, regardless of what it is, state with conviction in your mind "it is mine".  Trust that it is.  Do not doubt it for a second.  I wanted a painting at an auction and the bidding was going crazy.  Everyone wanted it!  I visualized the painting, stated emphatically in my mind "IT IS MINE" and said "STOP" to all of the bidders.  They stopped, I got a bargain and all I used was the power of my mind.  Use it on anything and everything!  Trust me it works!