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Are you a creeper?

Are you a creeper?

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Yes, women do it all the time.  We creep!  We create accounts online that are fake, or get our friends to do it, so we can creep on the ex without his knowledge.  When I was broken up I got on match.com just to creep on my ex.  Of course, I really didn't get to use my account because I had to stay hidden or pay extra so he couldn't see me looking at him.  Once I accidentally had my profile turned on and he saw it --- how humiliating.

I wonder why men don't spend their time stalking us?  Well, for the most part anyway.  I had an ex "John" who actually hired a private detective and tracked  me down while I was out of the state.  I had a PI (not a good-looking one like Magnum) show up at a remote location in the mountains with a fake clipboard in his hand asking silly questions about non-existent neighbors.  Poor John.  He was the ultimate "creeper".  He slept outside my house one night and I was walking to the street to get my garbage receptacle the next morning when I saw a car (a rental) parked across the street.  The windows were rolled down and I kept seeing a head pop up and down.  Curiosity got the best of me so I went over to the car and sure enough up popped John.  He was in the backseat and looked like he had a rough night trying to sleep in that tiny car.

I suppose the person who cares the most is usually the "creeper".  In John's case it was me who left so I get it.  One night I found him  hiding behind a bush that was the size of a small ficus tree.  It was 2AM and I saw someone crouching down with sunglasses and a baseball cap on.   When I saw him he began chasing me down the street like a 2 year old.  I didn't realize he could run that fast!

I  kept telling him to give up but he wouldn't do it!  He thought there was hope because I was nice to him but I was nice to him because I was over him.  Is that the curse of being nice to someone that you lead them into believing they have a chance?  Is your boyfriend being nice to you and leading you into believing that he will be back?  Only you know the answer but my advice to you is to step back and evaluate the situation before forcing yourself on him.  "Don't be a creeper".

It is horrible for the person being stalked because they feel trapped--- trapped and pissed.  Anger is not the emotion you want to evoke if you want your ex back.  I was so angry that I could have choked John but instead ended up calling the police for protection.  How do you know if you are the "creeper"?  Well, if you are planning ways to "run into" him, devising a plan to accidentally send him a text message, checking out his friend's FB account hoping you will see a pic of him (because he blocked you from his), going to his hangout with your girlfriends for support, thinking of reasons you need to get something you "left accidentally" at his place -- you're a creeper.

My advice is to move on and let him go -- for now!  You can send him messages the way I teach in my books and know that they will get to him faster and better than accidental text messages where you are pretending to be having such a fabulous time.  You know, the pic of you and your single girlfriends at HH trying to live it up and exude confidence.  When you move on you will actually get your power back and have fun without pretending!   When he truly and accidentally runs into the new, powerful and confident "you" that he fell in love with it will make him miss you and see you in an entirely different light.  Isn't that what you secretly long for?

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Booty Call or Love?

Booty Call or Love?

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You know you have the ability to choose which one you desire in your life.  Too many women believe that a booty call is the first step to getting the guy emotionally involved but they have nothing to do with one another.  Some of the best "pure sex" does not lead to love and some of the "least inventive" sex can lead to deep emotional attachment.  It's all a matter of the heart.

I answer questions daily from readers who want to know if they should continue having sex with their ex while trying to get a commitment out of him.  If a guy has a willing sex partner who requires nothing more from him than an occasional "date" or "hookup" isn't it logical that he will take you up on the offer as frequently as he desires?  If that is not what you are seeking and desiring then you will need to decide if you want to continue being his friend with benefits.  I know women enjoy the benefits as much as the men but if you're using sex as a way to get a commitment you may re-think that decision.

I didn't see my now fiancé' for an entire year after our 4 year relationship cratered.  Why did we break up?  Well, I think his freedom was too much of a priority and I'm sure he will admit it freely.  I wasn't willing to be tossed aside only to get together occasionally for a sexual relationship.  Not for me, sorry.  So we didn't talk for an entire year!  No texts, no emails, no contact.  I did, however, use my "secret technique" on him during that time to ensure that he didn't forget about me.  Nothing wrong with some specific, directed thoughts that I knew he would receive.  He proposed 3 weeks after we saw each other again.

My point?  Don't settle for less than you deserve.  If you break up and he states clearly that he wants to continue with the "booty call" but nothing else see it for what it is and break it off if you want more.  There is nothing worse for your self-esteem than constant rejection and  hoping for commitment.  It is easier and healthier for you to be upfront with him and state what it is you need and desire.  Hear what he has to say to you about your needs and don't filter it and only hear what you want to hear.  For instance:  if he says "I don't want a relationship" don't make excuses for him and turn that into "he loves me too much and is afraid".  No!  Take it  as "I don't want a relationship....(maybe with you)".  Yes, it hurts!  But it's better to move on and find someone that does want a relationship with you.

I'm sure most women can relate to the "booty call" boyfriend and it leaves a very empty, vacant, low self-esteem feeling that can easily be recounted years later.  However, we've all experienced the empowerment of not accepting less than we desire in our life, too.  Is there anything better than taking back the control and moving on if that's what is necessary?  Men, or people in general, will only respect you as much as you respect and honor yourself.  Playing games isn't going to get you a strong, lasting relationship.  Be honest, sincere and decide your course of action with your eyes wide open.  "Booty Call" or significant other...you get to make that decision.

 

Should You Let Go of Your Ex?

Should You Let Go of Your Ex?

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I wish I could count the number of times I have been asked about when to let go of your "ex"....or, whether you should let go or not.  I write books on attracting your "ex" or any man into your life and they absolutely, totally work.  However, if you have a man who shows no interest in you, you have to track down and chase, he only wants a "booty call" or keeps you hanging on with empty promises is that a question you should be asking?  Is attracting back your "ex" who appears to care less really worth your time and energy?  I can only answer for myself but that would be a HELL NO.

I tell my readers that if you have to spend all of your time, energy and effort on getting a guy back who acts like he could take you or leave you and not care either way then dump him!  Even though you can put thoughts and feelings into his head with my "secret technique" it will be a full-time job for you and eventually you will just have to throw up your hands and give up.  There are too many awesome men out there to waste time pining and whining over the loss of one man.  I don't care how "wonderful, fabulous, irreplaceable" he is in your head.  If he was such a great guy he wouldn't be dismissing you and treating you exactly the way YOU DO NOT DESERVE to be treated would he?

Women say about their ex "I can't live without him" or "he is the love of my life" but if he treats you poorly there isn't much there to love is there?  Men tend to remember the bad things in a past relationship and women remember only the good.  Women don't remember how poorly or dismissive they were treated.  Sometimes it is a wake-up call when you realize that it has been months since your ex had any connection to you or showed you the kindness and love you yearn for.   Sometimes you have to just let go and not have ANY expectation of him returning for him to feel it, miss the connection and come back.  It doesn't always work but I guarantee you that it works more often than sitting around looking at your phone and waiting for a non-existent phone call.  It certainly works better than stalking him, creeping on his FB or drunk dialing him only to be rebuffed again.  You want him?  Let him go and let him feel the loss.

Independence and strength in a woman is attractive and desirable to men.  Clingy, desperate, can't move forward, needy, jealous, low self-esteem women are a turn-off and men feel it, sense it, see it and RUN FROM IT.  You want to know when to let go of a man?  The minute he treats you the way you do not deserve to be treated.  No, I'm not talking about a little spat.  I am talking about on-going, continuous behavior from him that depletes your energy, trashes your self-esteem and makes you totally at his beck and call.  Cut the cord and he will feel it.  Otherwise you may become a back-up if nothing better shows up in his life and frankly who is the hell would want to be that?

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Remote Seduction Attracts ANY Man

Remote Seduction Attracts ANY Man

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What is remote seduction?  It is a way to attract your man, or any man, without any contact whatsoever.  All it takes is the power of your mind, the ability to visualize and a little practice.  I wrote the book "How to Make Him BURN With Desire...Only For You and it explains in detail how to use remote seduction to attract your man.  The book uses a unique technique that assists you in attracting your "target".  Your target can be someone you know, an "ex", a stranger, a co-worker....absolutely anyone.

What is unique about my technique is that you will actually call your mate to you before beginning your remote seduction visualization.  Thoughts are very powerful and while most people don't realize it they have the power to attract many, many things into their lives.  One of them is a mate.  When you use the power of remote seduction your target will be attracted to you and drawn to you without you ever speaking to him.  He will think the ideas and thoughts are his own but they are thoughts that you have intentionally placed there with the power of your imagination and intention.

For instance, if there is a co-worker that you desire and he has paid no attention to you this would be the perfect technique for you.  Flirting is so obvious and it takes your power away from you to seem so available and be the initiator.  It is best to sit back, use the visualization and make him chase you.  And he will be unable to keep you off his mind.  He will find that he is drawn to you so powerfully that he is literally unable to resist.  You can be friendly, nice, cute, funny but not assertive.  He will be putty in your hands.  An "ex"....well he is toast when you use the technique because you have been intimate and already know how to push his buttons.  This is a great way to get him back and take back your power, especially if he was the one who broke off the relationship.

How to do it?  First, you need to be in a relaxed state of mind.  I will have CDs and MP3s out within the next couple of weeks with powerful meditations to guide you and assist you in reaching the optimum state of mind.  Then you need to call him to you using the technique I wrote about in my books.  It gets his attention and he will immediately feel a strong and powerful thought and presence of you when you use it.  Next, you will visualize all kinds of intimacy with him.  Many readers have reported themselves having a pleasurable and spontaneous orgasm when they use the RS technique.  It is truly as if you are having a sexual encounter.  He feels it, too.  The power and intensity can be so strong and profound that it will feel real to you both.

Afterwards, bask in the glow and visualize the emotional attachment and bond that has been formed between you and your target.  It is a bond that is emotional as well as physical.  My readers have told me they like to use my  Pussy Whip - Proven, Powerful "Secret" Technique Controls Your Man book technique on one day and the How to Make Him BURN With Desire...Only For You technique on the other.  Alternate and get the best of both worlds.  The techniques are similar but one focuses more on the emotional attachment than the other.

What else happens?  Well ladies, when you use the remote seduction technique men from your past will feel it and frequently contact you, men that are not targeted will be drawn to you, actually men from everywhere will be at your beck and call.  Why?  As you raise your frequency and vibration you will attract men like you've never attracted them before.  It is as if you have the inner and outer glow that is achieved usually only after a sexual encounter.  You will have your choice of any man you desire by learning this unique way to seduce a man.  I suggest you use it only on men who are unattached and available.  I do not condone disrupting relationships or marriages by using this on them.  (With the exception of the straying husband and his mistress then I suggest it is a great way to get even and take your power back.)

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Claim Your Man With Your Mind

Claim Your Man With Your Mind

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If you have the power to claim your man without shackling him to you is there a reason why you wouldn't take advantage of it?  Your mind is the key to making a claim on your mate without saying a word to him.  Who needs to be jealous, insecure or let the man control the relationship?  No!  Let the power of your intention stake a claim on your mate that will last until you release him.

How?  Well, if you have read my books "Pussy Whip" or "Make Him Burn" you will know that your intentions and belief control EVERYTHING in your life.  It creates your reality.  I taught you specific methods to contact and control your mate.  I don't care whether he is sitting across the room in a chair or halfway around the world you can control his thoughts and actions.  So if you have the power to do that why wouldn't you be able to put a claim him?  The fact is that YOU DO!

Use the technique to contact him and when you do tell him "you are mine...no one will take you from me....you will be mine until I release you".  When you think of him during the day visualize him as clearly as possible.  Really hone in on him like a laser beam!  Tell him the same thing "you are mine...you belong to me and only me."  See him and even place him mentally in a protective bubble so he will be off-limits and invisible to others.  It may sound bizarre to some women but to those who have read my books, other books on LOA, etc. you will understand how easy it is to do.

Place your claim on anything you want!  If you want something, regardless of what it is, state with conviction in your mind "it is mine".  Trust that it is.  Do not doubt it for a second.  I wanted a painting at an auction and the bidding was going crazy.  Everyone wanted it!  I visualized the painting, stated emphatically in my mind "IT IS MINE" and said "STOP" to all of the bidders.  They stopped, I got a bargain and all I used was the power of my mind.  Use it on anything and everything!  Trust me it works!

 

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Pussy Whip Manifesting

Pussy Whip Manifesting

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How do you manifest?  It's so easy!   Please don't try to make it hard because it's actually super easy!  Think about it....we manifest every moment of every day whether we realize it or not.  What you are looking at and experiencing you have manifested either on purpose or accidentally.  Whether it is something you want or something you do not want it can be changed through your thoughts and intentions.

In my "Pussy Whip" book I discuss a technique to manifest a man back into your life.  The man could be a total dick but the fact is that regardless you have decided you want and/or need him back.  This technique is simple and straightforward and I give you specific instructions on how to do it!  You couldn't screw it up if you tried!  And yet I receive emails every day asking me the same questions:

  • What is I can't feel connected to him?
  • Is it working if he doesn't say EXACTLY what I visualize him saying?
  • How do I know if I'm connected or in a subconscious state?
  • What happens if I stop using the technique?
  • Do I have to see him in my visualization?

Don't try to make it difficult because it is so easy!  If you are seeing him in your mind's eye then you are connected.  If you are relaxed then you are accessing a state other than your conscious state.  If he says something different than what you're visualizing it's okay.  You say the words because you want to feel the emotion and send that to him.  And finally, WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU EVERY STOP USING THE TECHNIQUE?

If you are manifesting a life that is wonderful would you stop doing it?  NO!  Just as an athlete doesn't usually stop working out because they perfected their body and ability.  You keep doing what you did to get to the happy state you are in.  So, if your mate comes back don't stop using the technique on them.  Keep it up for 5 minutes a day.  Preferably at bedtime because it is the best time to manifest.  Or first thing in the morning while you are still sleepy and in a semi-conscious state.  Make it where the dude never wants to leave again by spending a few minutes visualizing your perfect, beautiful life together.