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Relationship Mistakes Women Make

Relationship Mistakes Women Make

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You know the saying "all is fair in love and war" but it seems to me, after 20 years of counseling women, that women can be their own worse enemy when it comes to relationships.  Do you see yourself in the following examples?

  • Your mate says "you're too needy" and rather than back off and prove that you are an independent woman you stalk him which further alienates him.
  • Your ex states that he "hates drama" so you throw a temper tantrum when he blocks you from social media and his phone after a nasty breakup.
  • He says "I want to date other women" and you make the excuse that he loves you too much and is afraid of commitment so he gets a free pass while you sit at home alone and miserable.
  • He tells you that he cares for you as a "friend with benefits" woman and, although you want an engagement ring, you agree to be that for him thinking you can change his mind in time.
  • He may be honest and upfront by stating that "he never wants to get married" but you are positive that sex will be so awesome he will change his mind so you stay in a relationship for years and "waste your pretty" on him rather than find a man who is available.
  • When he tells you all the things that are wrong with you (or the relationship) you try convincing him that you are "the perfect woman for him" and he could never find anyone who would love him more.

Women love to make over things so part of the problem is the challenge of getting someone to change.  How many of your friends (or even yourself) have said "with a different hairstyle, clothes, personality, money, sexual appeal, etc." he COULD BE the perfect mate.  He isn't at the moment but if he changes he has potential!

When a man states emphatically that the relationship is not going anywhere I beg you to listen to him.  In the off-chance that he does change his mind he will hunt you down and crawl on his hands and knees to propose to you.  But, don't hold your breath.  Why?  One big reason is that men do not respect women and hold them in high regard if they do not have self-esteem.

Let's be truthful, if you have self-esteem you will not allow a man to treat you disrespectfully and/or take up your precious time to be a play toy.  You are honest and upfront and have no hidden agenda.  If you desire a monogamous relationship you won't settle for less.  If you desire marriage you don't pretend to be a free spirit who never wants to be tied down.  In other words, you are the person you are and you are proud of it!  He will always know what your standards are and that you will never be a doormat for him, or anyone else.

I write books about relationships but I have counseled women for many years on relationships, law of attraction, self-esteem issues and empowerment.  If you want to learn more about any of these subjects I hope you will go to my website because between my books and meditations you will find yourself growing stronger and more powerful day-to-day.   Do it for yourself but remember that "men love women who love themselves".

 

Psychic Touch--Can It Sexually Stimulate?

Psychic Touch--Can It Sexually Stimulate?

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Psychic Touch is real and it works!  It is the art of getting yourself into a relaxed, meditative state of mind (alpha state) and visualizing and imagining the person you desire in an intimate scenario.  It absolutely and totally works and they feel you, think of you and they desire you.  Best of all, they believe the thoughts are originating within them and have no idea you are controlling it!   Remote Seduction Meditation

It is no secret that our thoughts are projected to others.  Think of how many times you think of someone then run into them or have them call or text.  You were unintentionally messaging each other and projecting your thoughts ahead of your actions.  When you use Psychic Touch there will frequently be a feeling of "actual" sexual intimacy between both partners.  It is so real, so intimate that it is second only to an actual sexual encounter.

My books teach you how use a secret technique to engage your partner and it intensifies the effect 1,000 more than just a single, solitary thought.  Using my technique before visualizing touching, kissing and caressing you partner will absolutely drive them wild with passion.  You want him to desire you?  Stimulate him and make him desire you through the power of your wonderful, passionate thoughts.

Never underestimate the power of your mind.  Learn how to reach your partner any time of the day or night and have them think of you---and only you!  Learn Psychic Touch from a person who has practiced it for 20 years and is a master at Remote Seduction.    "How To Make Him Burn With Desire"

Attract Your "EX" Back

Attract Your "EX" Back

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I don't know why women want their "ex" back to be honest but I was one of the ones who did and I got him back using my "secret technique".  If things were that great to begin with there wouldn't have been a breakup but the minute he's gone women go insane until he comes back.  Is there a way to get him back without groveling, chasing and humiliating yourself?  Absolutely!

I write books to empower women and although the titles are salacious they are really about the power of the mind and using the Law of Attraction.  Sounds simple doesn't it?  Either simple or insane!  Using your mind to get your man back!  Lanie, are you serious?  Until you try my "secret technique" you will never, ever believe what you can do with it.

If you want your "ex" to come crawling back or if you want your current mate to change his behavior you absolutely can change his behavior AND his thoughts.  I am not making this up nor am I exaggerating the results.  Go to my website and read for yourself from forum members and they will confirm what I am telling you.  Lanie's Forum

In my book Pussy Whip - Proven, Powerful "Secret Technique" Controls Your Man I tell you exactly the simple steps to get your man back.  Would I call it a "trick" necessarily?  No, but it is a powerful method that may seem like one.  The fact is that it works!  But don't just take my word for it.  Read the Amazon reviews, go to the forum, try it and if you find it doesn't work get a refund for the book.  You have 7 days to do it (although I don't think you will).  :-)  That's pretty cool!

If you want to learn how to instantly manifest and get into the "magical subconscious state of mind" try my meditations.  They will take you deep into a place where anything and everything can be manifested because you are in a relaxed, peaceful, manifesting mode.  They will make things happen faster and empower you in many ways!  

My goal is to help women and teach them to never, ever feel sad, depressed or victimized.  You can control your future, your mate and his thoughts and feelings.  I hope you will take the opportunity to re-direct your life.  It is more simple than you can imagine!  Power and love to my "sisters"!

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Remote seduction is using the power of your mind and intent to contact the person you desire.  Just a thought will rarely work but when you get into a deep, meditative state of mind (the manifesting state of mind) and contact the person using my "secret technique" it will instantly work like magic.  No other technique can do what mine but you have to try it to believe it!

This is from an email I received today from a reader of my book How to Make Him BURN With Desire...Only for YOU.  I don't think she will mind if I post her email because I will leave her name private.  This is a sample of emails that I receive daily from women all over the world!

"Hello. I stumbled upon your 3 series books and was surprised when I reached the section of the mind power (I stared with Make Him Burn with Desire). This was/is different than any of the other 50+ books that I read about getting, then keeping my new boyfriend, bringing him back after he drifted due to a "hiccup" last Thursday. He barely spoke to me for three days.

So all that to say, that I did your exercises, the visualization and all, three times this past Sunday. By Monday he was calling me as a different man. Begging to come over and when he did, we barely got out of bed for two days and it was much more than just sex. We had the deepest connection since our relationship began and it is incredible.

I don't fully understand your methods, but you made a believer out of me. And I just wanted to say - THANK YOU! You gave me hope when I was hopeless and you very well may have saved our relationship."

The power of the mind is truly incredible and I teach you how to use it in an effective and powerful manner.  No other book will teach you what I teach you and no other guided meditation will have the power and ability to immediately contact the person you desire to get in touch with.  My technique is unique in every way!

 

 

 

Don't Force Commitment

Don't Force Commitment

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Men hate to be controlled and forced to commit! I mean they are more afraid of commitment than death. They try to hold onto their freedom just as long as humanly possible before they decide they have too much to lose if they don’t commit to that “special woman”. But it isn’t usually the woman who manipulates him into a relationship that he didn’t really want that he ends up with. In fact, although he may make promises to her out of a temporary fear of loss, he rarely keeps the coerced promises. Instead he begins to feel smothered, like he can’t breathe, before he escapes with his life. There is an easier way to control him ladies!

I get desperate letters from women because they are afraid their men are going to leave them or desperate pleas to help them because the guy just ran for the hills. I can usually pinpoint the problem within a few sentences and it is almost always the same. Desperation and neediness in a woman is a turn-off to guys. Too often women have coerced men into saying things they weren’t ready to say. Sure, the guys could have just avoided making promises they didn’t intend to keep but they rarely do. In a guy’s mind he wants to make sure it ISN’T the right woman and to do that he needs proof. So he starts looking for reasons that the demanding woman is not “the one”. Just the opposite of the intended purpose.

Reasons he may not commit: He says “I just want to be friends with benefits” and you coerce him into a “monogamous” relationship. He doesn’t want to move in together and has a hundred reasons why it isn’t a good idea but you wear him down until he moves in (for a while). He says “I need more freedom” and you think it’s a compromise to let him have one night a month “out with the boys”. He tells you all the reasons it will never work between the two of you but you aren’t listening because you are busy selling him on all of your “qualities”. He does everything in his power to get you to break up with him because he’s a “bad boy” and you think it’s a good thing that you have “patience and understanding”.

Face facts, men are natural born hunters and if they want something they will work on getting it. If you are having to convince your man that you’re worth the constant “relationship talks” then he is trying to find the nearest exit. It is rarely too late to salvage a relationship but you can save yourself the trouble of doing it if you will just listen to what he is saying and watch what he is doing. Don’t try to force a relationship that is obviously one-sided. Chasing a guy will make him run faster! There is a better and more effective way, ladies!

You can use my secret technique Pussy Whip – Proven, Powerful “Secret” Technique Controls Your Man to get him to chase you and want commitment and it works much better than you handcuffing him to you and your relationship. Try a new tactic on him using the power of your mind and my secret technique and you will see a definite change in his attitude toward you and your future together. It’s never too late!

Are you a creeper?

Are you a creeper?

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Yes, women do it all the time.  We creep!  We create accounts online that are fake, or get our friends to do it, so we can creep on the ex without his knowledge.  When I was broken up I got on match.com just to creep on my ex.  Of course, I really didn't get to use my account because I had to stay hidden or pay extra so he couldn't see me looking at him.  Once I accidentally had my profile turned on and he saw it --- how humiliating.

I wonder why men don't spend their time stalking us?  Well, for the most part anyway.  I had an ex "John" who actually hired a private detective and tracked  me down while I was out of the state.  I had a PI (not a good-looking one like Magnum) show up at a remote location in the mountains with a fake clipboard in his hand asking silly questions about non-existent neighbors.  Poor John.  He was the ultimate "creeper".  He slept outside my house one night and I was walking to the street to get my garbage receptacle the next morning when I saw a car (a rental) parked across the street.  The windows were rolled down and I kept seeing a head pop up and down.  Curiosity got the best of me so I went over to the car and sure enough up popped John.  He was in the backseat and looked like he had a rough night trying to sleep in that tiny car.

I suppose the person who cares the most is usually the "creeper".  In John's case it was me who left so I get it.  One night I found him  hiding behind a bush that was the size of a small ficus tree.  It was 2AM and I saw someone crouching down with sunglasses and a baseball cap on.   When I saw him he began chasing me down the street like a 2 year old.  I didn't realize he could run that fast!

I  kept telling him to give up but he wouldn't do it!  He thought there was hope because I was nice to him but I was nice to him because I was over him.  Is that the curse of being nice to someone that you lead them into believing they have a chance?  Is your boyfriend being nice to you and leading you into believing that he will be back?  Only you know the answer but my advice to you is to step back and evaluate the situation before forcing yourself on him.  "Don't be a creeper".

It is horrible for the person being stalked because they feel trapped--- trapped and pissed.  Anger is not the emotion you want to evoke if you want your ex back.  I was so angry that I could have choked John but instead ended up calling the police for protection.  How do you know if you are the "creeper"?  Well, if you are planning ways to "run into" him, devising a plan to accidentally send him a text message, checking out his friend's FB account hoping you will see a pic of him (because he blocked you from his), going to his hangout with your girlfriends for support, thinking of reasons you need to get something you "left accidentally" at his place -- you're a creeper.

My advice is to move on and let him go -- for now!  You can send him messages the way I teach in my books and know that they will get to him faster and better than accidental text messages where you are pretending to be having such a fabulous time.  You know, the pic of you and your single girlfriends at HH trying to live it up and exude confidence.  When you move on you will actually get your power back and have fun without pretending!   When he truly and accidentally runs into the new, powerful and confident "you" that he fell in love with it will make him miss you and see you in an entirely different light.  Isn't that what you secretly long for?

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Booty Call or Love?

Booty Call or Love?

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You know you have the ability to choose which one you desire in your life.  Too many women believe that a booty call is the first step to getting the guy emotionally involved but they have nothing to do with one another.  Some of the best "pure sex" does not lead to love and some of the "least inventive" sex can lead to deep emotional attachment.  It's all a matter of the heart.

I answer questions daily from readers who want to know if they should continue having sex with their ex while trying to get a commitment out of him.  If a guy has a willing sex partner who requires nothing more from him than an occasional "date" or "hookup" isn't it logical that he will take you up on the offer as frequently as he desires?  If that is not what you are seeking and desiring then you will need to decide if you want to continue being his friend with benefits.  I know women enjoy the benefits as much as the men but if you're using sex as a way to get a commitment you may re-think that decision.

I didn't see my now fiancé' for an entire year after our 4 year relationship cratered.  Why did we break up?  Well, I think his freedom was too much of a priority and I'm sure he will admit it freely.  I wasn't willing to be tossed aside only to get together occasionally for a sexual relationship.  Not for me, sorry.  So we didn't talk for an entire year!  No texts, no emails, no contact.  I did, however, use my "secret technique" on him during that time to ensure that he didn't forget about me.  Nothing wrong with some specific, directed thoughts that I knew he would receive.  He proposed 3 weeks after we saw each other again.

My point?  Don't settle for less than you deserve.  If you break up and he states clearly that he wants to continue with the "booty call" but nothing else see it for what it is and break it off if you want more.  There is nothing worse for your self-esteem than constant rejection and  hoping for commitment.  It is easier and healthier for you to be upfront with him and state what it is you need and desire.  Hear what he has to say to you about your needs and don't filter it and only hear what you want to hear.  For instance:  if he says "I don't want a relationship" don't make excuses for him and turn that into "he loves me too much and is afraid".  No!  Take it  as "I don't want a relationship....(maybe with you)".  Yes, it hurts!  But it's better to move on and find someone that does want a relationship with you.

I'm sure most women can relate to the "booty call" boyfriend and it leaves a very empty, vacant, low self-esteem feeling that can easily be recounted years later.  However, we've all experienced the empowerment of not accepting less than we desire in our life, too.  Is there anything better than taking back the control and moving on if that's what is necessary?  Men, or people in general, will only respect you as much as you respect and honor yourself.  Playing games isn't going to get you a strong, lasting relationship.  Be honest, sincere and decide your course of action with your eyes wide open.  "Booty Call" or significant other...you get to make that decision.

 

Should You Let Go of Your Ex?

Should You Let Go of Your Ex?

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I wish I could count the number of times I have been asked about when to let go of your "ex"....or, whether you should let go or not.  I write books on attracting your "ex" or any man into your life and they absolutely, totally work.  However, if you have a man who shows no interest in you, you have to track down and chase, he only wants a "booty call" or keeps you hanging on with empty promises is that a question you should be asking?  Is attracting back your "ex" who appears to care less really worth your time and energy?  I can only answer for myself but that would be a HELL NO.

I tell my readers that if you have to spend all of your time, energy and effort on getting a guy back who acts like he could take you or leave you and not care either way then dump him!  Even though you can put thoughts and feelings into his head with my "secret technique" it will be a full-time job for you and eventually you will just have to throw up your hands and give up.  There are too many awesome men out there to waste time pining and whining over the loss of one man.  I don't care how "wonderful, fabulous, irreplaceable" he is in your head.  If he was such a great guy he wouldn't be dismissing you and treating you exactly the way YOU DO NOT DESERVE to be treated would he?

Women say about their ex "I can't live without him" or "he is the love of my life" but if he treats you poorly there isn't much there to love is there?  Men tend to remember the bad things in a past relationship and women remember only the good.  Women don't remember how poorly or dismissive they were treated.  Sometimes it is a wake-up call when you realize that it has been months since your ex had any connection to you or showed you the kindness and love you yearn for.   Sometimes you have to just let go and not have ANY expectation of him returning for him to feel it, miss the connection and come back.  It doesn't always work but I guarantee you that it works more often than sitting around looking at your phone and waiting for a non-existent phone call.  It certainly works better than stalking him, creeping on his FB or drunk dialing him only to be rebuffed again.  You want him?  Let him go and let him feel the loss.

Independence and strength in a woman is attractive and desirable to men.  Clingy, desperate, can't move forward, needy, jealous, low self-esteem women are a turn-off and men feel it, sense it, see it and RUN FROM IT.  You want to know when to let go of a man?  The minute he treats you the way you do not deserve to be treated.  No, I'm not talking about a little spat.  I am talking about on-going, continuous behavior from him that depletes your energy, trashes your self-esteem and makes you totally at his beck and call.  Cut the cord and he will feel it.  Otherwise you may become a back-up if nothing better shows up in his life and frankly who is the hell would want to be that?

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Remote Seduction Attracts ANY Man

Remote Seduction Attracts ANY Man

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What is remote seduction?  It is a way to attract your man, or any man, without any contact whatsoever.  All it takes is the power of your mind, the ability to visualize and a little practice.  I wrote the book "How to Make Him BURN With Desire...Only For You and it explains in detail how to use remote seduction to attract your man.  The book uses a unique technique that assists you in attracting your "target".  Your target can be someone you know, an "ex", a stranger, a co-worker....absolutely anyone.

What is unique about my technique is that you will actually call your mate to you before beginning your remote seduction visualization.  Thoughts are very powerful and while most people don't realize it they have the power to attract many, many things into their lives.  One of them is a mate.  When you use the power of remote seduction your target will be attracted to you and drawn to you without you ever speaking to him.  He will think the ideas and thoughts are his own but they are thoughts that you have intentionally placed there with the power of your imagination and intention.

For instance, if there is a co-worker that you desire and he has paid no attention to you this would be the perfect technique for you.  Flirting is so obvious and it takes your power away from you to seem so available and be the initiator.  It is best to sit back, use the visualization and make him chase you.  And he will be unable to keep you off his mind.  He will find that he is drawn to you so powerfully that he is literally unable to resist.  You can be friendly, nice, cute, funny but not assertive.  He will be putty in your hands.  An "ex"....well he is toast when you use the technique because you have been intimate and already know how to push his buttons.  This is a great way to get him back and take back your power, especially if he was the one who broke off the relationship.

How to do it?  First, you need to be in a relaxed state of mind.  I will have CDs and MP3s out within the next couple of weeks with powerful meditations to guide you and assist you in reaching the optimum state of mind.  Then you need to call him to you using the technique I wrote about in my books.  It gets his attention and he will immediately feel a strong and powerful thought and presence of you when you use it.  Next, you will visualize all kinds of intimacy with him.  Many readers have reported themselves having a pleasurable and spontaneous orgasm when they use the RS technique.  It is truly as if you are having a sexual encounter.  He feels it, too.  The power and intensity can be so strong and profound that it will feel real to you both.

Afterwards, bask in the glow and visualize the emotional attachment and bond that has been formed between you and your target.  It is a bond that is emotional as well as physical.  My readers have told me they like to use my  Pussy Whip - Proven, Powerful "Secret" Technique Controls Your Man book technique on one day and the How to Make Him BURN With Desire...Only For You technique on the other.  Alternate and get the best of both worlds.  The techniques are similar but one focuses more on the emotional attachment than the other.

What else happens?  Well ladies, when you use the remote seduction technique men from your past will feel it and frequently contact you, men that are not targeted will be drawn to you, actually men from everywhere will be at your beck and call.  Why?  As you raise your frequency and vibration you will attract men like you've never attracted them before.  It is as if you have the inner and outer glow that is achieved usually only after a sexual encounter.  You will have your choice of any man you desire by learning this unique way to seduce a man.  I suggest you use it only on men who are unattached and available.  I do not condone disrupting relationships or marriages by using this on them.  (With the exception of the straying husband and his mistress then I suggest it is a great way to get even and take your power back.)

Learn the technique ladies and build your self-esteem by attracting any man you desire!  Amp up your sexual appeal with a unique Remote Seduction guided meditation.  ONLY AVAILABLE ON MY WEBSITE!

 

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Pussy Whip Manifesting

Pussy Whip Manifesting

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How do you manifest?  It's so easy!   Please don't try to make it hard because it's actually super easy!  Think about it....we manifest every moment of every day whether we realize it or not.  What you are looking at and experiencing you have manifested either on purpose or accidentally.  Whether it is something you want or something you do not want it can be changed through your thoughts and intentions.

In my "Pussy Whip" book I discuss a technique to manifest a man back into your life.  The man could be a total dick but the fact is that regardless you have decided you want and/or need him back.  This technique is simple and straightforward and I give you specific instructions on how to do it!  You couldn't screw it up if you tried!  And yet I receive emails every day asking me the same questions:

  • What is I can't feel connected to him?
  • Is it working if he doesn't say EXACTLY what I visualize him saying?
  • How do I know if I'm connected or in a subconscious state?
  • What happens if I stop using the technique?
  • Do I have to see him in my visualization?

Don't try to make it difficult because it is so easy!  If you are seeing him in your mind's eye then you are connected.  If you are relaxed then you are accessing a state other than your conscious state.  If he says something different than what you're visualizing it's okay.  You say the words because you want to feel the emotion and send that to him.  And finally, WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU EVERY STOP USING THE TECHNIQUE?

If you are manifesting a life that is wonderful would you stop doing it?  NO!  Just as an athlete doesn't usually stop working out because they perfected their body and ability.  You keep doing what you did to get to the happy state you are in.  So, if your mate comes back don't stop using the technique on them.  Keep it up for 5 minutes a day.  Preferably at bedtime because it is the best time to manifest.  Or first thing in the morning while you are still sleepy and in a semi-conscious state.  Make it where the dude never wants to leave again by spending a few minutes visualizing your perfect, beautiful life together.

 

Meditation Facts

Meditation Facts

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 I get SO many emails every day from women (and some men) who want to know more about what frame of mind you need to be in to manifest.  Do you need to be in a trance?  In a deep meditation?  In a totally subconscious state where you aren't aware of what's going on around you?  What happens if different and random thoughts cross your mind?  All valid questions I would like to address because the thoughts themselves can cause undue stress.

ALL you need to do is be relaxed and receptive.  In my Pussy Whip book (which was the first book) I explained the importance of your subconscious state.  It is 35,000 more powerful in manifesting than your conscious (rational) mind.  So I tell you to think "sleep" three times to induce a deep relaxation.  It may even make you yawn because it will shift your body into a relaxed state even when you are actively thinking.  That's all you need to do.  It is not necessary to become adept at meditation (although it is beneficial for other reasons) or to be a Yogi who practices for hours on end.  ALL you need to do is just relax.  Relax and allow yourself to focus on what you want to manifest.

Can you listen to music?  Yes, but you won't be doing the technique for a long enough period of time to really get into a deep meditation.  I only use the technique for 5 minutes usually.  Sometimes 10 minutes but that is the maximum.  I take a few deep, relaxing breaths and think "sleep" three times.  I am ready to manifest.  Your body will become trained by you doing the same routine over and over again to respond immediately.  You will be surprised that all you have to do is think "manifest" or "relax" and your body will begin to automatically go into a shifted state of consciousness.

Don't worry about whether you are connected to your target or not.  Or whether you are in a subconscious state or not.  Or whether you have thoughts or not.  We all have thoughts that are uncontrollable.  It happens during the day when we are trying to focus and it happens during meditation when we are trying to manifest.  Just allow the thoughts to float away and go back to focusing.  Don't think too much about it!  Don't freak out and beat yourself up fearing nothing will manifest.  It will manifest if you use my "secret" technique.  Believe it.  Live it.  Breathe it.  Manifest it.  If something else crosses your mind just gently bring your thoughts back to what you were thinking and visualizing before that pesky conscious mind interrupted you.

It is so easy to "Pussy Whip" the guy or manifest the life of your dreams.  Don't let that conscious mind that doubts everything take away your vision.  It is like the devil on your shoulder constantly giving you negative and destructive advice.  Ignore it.  Push the negativity away and create the life of your dreams.  Ladies, it is really that simple.  :-)